No one wants to do funeral planning, but leaving instructions for your funeral and burial wishes relieves loved ones of the burden of making decisions and hoping they are following your wishes. In addition, says the article “Important to provide instructions for preferred funeral, burial wishes” from The Leader, it also prevents arguments between relatives and friends who have their own opinions about what they think you may have wanted.
What often happens is that people make their funeral plan and final wishes part of their estate plan. In some states, burial wishes are found in a will. However, this often presents a problem as the will is usually not looked at until after the funeral. If your loved ones don’t know where your will is, then they certainly won’t know what your wishes were for the funeral. Without clear written directions, spiritual practices or cultural traditions that are important to you, may not be followed.
An estate planning attorney can help you create a document that outlines your wishes and will have suggestions for how to discuss this with your family and where it should be located. In Texas, much like in New York as referenced in the article, there is a form that allows you to name an agent who will be in charge of your remains. In Texas it is called the Appointment for Disposition of Remains. You can give your instructions to that person in the document which takes the mystery and a lot of the difficulty out of the process.
In Texas, if you don’t name a person to control the disposition of remains, there is an order of priority for decision makers, including spouses, a child, a parent and so on. If you wouldn’t want those individuals making these decisions, an Appointment for Disposition of Remains is essential.
For funeral planning, one option is to go to the funeral home and arrange to pay for the funeral and go to the cemetery and purchase a plot. In Texas, a pre-need, pre-paid irrevocable burial plan may also be excluded from Medicaid for long-term care purposes. See here for more on that topic. https://www.galliganmanning.com/elder-law-questions/
Some people wish to donate their organs, which can be done on a driver’s license or in another statement. This should also be authorized on you Medical Power of Attorney so that your agent has the authority to do so. Donating your body for medical research or education will require researching medical schools or other institutions and may require an application and other paperwork that confirms your intent to donate your body. When you pass, your family member or whoever is in charge will need to contact the organization and arrange for transport of your remains.
A comprehensive estate plan does more than distribute assets at death. It also includes what a person’s wishes are for their funeral and burial wishes. Think of it as a gift to loved ones.
Reference: The Leader (December 7, 2019) “Important to provide instructions for preferred funeral, burial wishes”